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Diana Brainard <I>Churchill</I> Bardwell

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Diana Brainard Churchill Bardwell

Birth
Manhattan, New York County, New York, USA
Death
18 Jun 2011 (aged 49)
West Tisbury, Dukes County, Massachusetts, USA
Burial
Chilmark, Dukes County, Massachusetts, USA Add to Map
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Diana Churchill Bardwell died on Saturday, June 18, at home in West Tisbury after a 16-month battle with ameloblastic sarcomatoid carcinoma, a rare cancer. She was 49 and had been a Vineyard resident all her life, first in summers and for the last 24 years as a year-round resident, where she was well-known in the community as a businesswoman, mother, wife and friend.
Diana Brainard Churchill was born August 1, 1961, in New York city, the first child and only daughter of Donald and Faith (Dennis) Churchill. She grew up in Brooklyn Heights, N.Y., and attended the Parker Collegiate Institute through the ninth grade. Following that she attended the Kent School in Kent, Conn., where she graduated in 1979. She enrolled at the University of Washington in Seattle, later completing her college studies at the University of Massachusetts at Amherst, graduating cum laude in 1985 with a bachelor’s degree in art history. Following college she enrolled at the Katherine Gibbs School in Boston where she studied office administration. From infancy Diana spent summers on the Vineyard, where her grandmother, Marion Cheney Dennis, owned a home on South Water street in Edgartown. Carefree childhood summers were spent sailing and playing tennis in the Edgartown Yacht Club junior programs and swimming in the gentle waters at the Chappaquiddick Beach Club with her extended family and friends. During her college years she spent summers working at the Old Sculpin Gallery in Edgartown. She worked behind the desk in the 1980s and managed the gallery from 1987-1990; in the late 1980s she was also the bookkeeper and treasurer for the Martha’s Vineyard Art Association, the nonprofit that supports Old Sculpin Gallery. Diana loved working at the gallery, where she took pleasure in introducing visitors to the work of Island artists and in helping hang the shows on weekends. Her close association with so many Island artists inspired her to change her college major from English to art history. After graduating from Katharine Gibbs, she temped for six months in Boston but the Vineyard, where her mother had moved year-round by then, was in her heart and on her mind. “I called my mother and said I wanted to come home,” she recalled in a conversation with a family friend recently. She moved to the Island, worked for a time with Peter Martell’s hospitality reservations business and then took a job with the New Bedford Five Cent Savings Bank which had a loan office on the Vineyard. In 1987 the office was taken over by Compass Bank and Diana became a mortgage originator, and then manager of the loan office.
While in college, through her lifelong friend Candy Mattern, Diana was introduced to Douglas Bardwell, an Islander whose family owned a successful electronics business in Vineyard Haven. Diana and Doug began dating after a chance encounter outside the Bunch of Grapes bookstore in Vineyard Haven when she was home from college on winter break. They were married in September of 1990. They had two children, Ian and Jared. They lived in Oak Bluffs for 10 years before building their present home in West Tisbury.
Diana left Compass in 2003 for a time after her mother’s death to take care of family matters. She returned to the bank, by then Sovereign, in 2005 and left for good in 2006, deciding to pursue independent work as a private bookkeeper and spend more time with her young children. “I felt like life was going so quickly and I was missing it all,” she recalled.
She loved to garden and was active in community affairs. She was a member of the Rotary Club beginning in 1993 and served as a sergeant at arms and director of international service until she took a medical leave due to illness. She won a Paul Harris Fellow award from Rotary in 2008. She served on the board of Big Brothers Big Sisters, Habitat for Humanity and the Martha’s Vineyard Art Association, including as president for a brief time, stepping down when her mother was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer. She was treasurer of the Chilmark School parent teacher organization and the school outing club, the fund-raising arm for the Shenandoah trip and fifth grade ski trip, which include every child in the school. She was a member of the Zonta Club. She was a member of the Edgartown Yacht Club and the Chappaquiddidick Beach Club, where she served on the board of directors for six years. After her mother’s death she took up sailing again, crewing in summer Herreshoff 12 races with her family friend Diana Muldaur Dozier of Edgartown.
In February 2010 she was diagnosed with a rare, aggressive cancer in her jaw. After completing a grueling series of surgeries, chemotherapy and many weeks of radiation treatments, in the spring of this year she returned home. The three daughters of her friend Candy Mattern, now Candy Webster, made Diana a quilt whose piecework reflected the things she loved: colorful Herreshoff sailboats flying in the wind, dozens of ruby slippers and red and white hearts. “Coming home I literally felt like I was wrapped in a blanket of love and that is what this community means to me,” she said. “Everything I have needed or my family has needed — we just have to ask and people are there. It’s so inspiring and humbling it’s beyond words.”
Despite her illness, Diana never lost her zest for organizing everything and everybody around her. In early June of this year she participated in the American Cancer Society Relay for Life event on the Vineyard. True to her character, Diana threw herself into the planning with great energy, organizing a huge team of friends and family of all ages to walk in the event and raise money for cancer research. Wearing their bright orange T-shirts, the members of Team Diana were quite a presence, walking and dancing their way around the track at the regional high school for 20 straight hours, with Diana in their midst for much of it.
In an e-mail to her family friend before her death she concluded:
“When my mother died, nothing made sense. But as the years went by I realized that in her death there were so many gifts. You just had to look. Amazing people and opportunities came into my life that would have had no reason to be there if she was still with me. I also had to finally grow up. In some cultures you are not considered to be an adult until you have lost both your parents, and I totally get that now.
“There are so many gifts. But one is the clarity that you gain — I’ve always had a faith if you will, that we are here to do what we were meant to do and when that time is up, it’s up. But we do go on to do other things — this is a transition and I’m at peace with it.
“Things will not be the same for those I leave behind, but it will be okay after awhile. There will be people and opportunities that will present themselves that wouldn’t have been there if I had stayed. I am moving on to my next purpose and everyone I leave behind will have new frontiers and experiences. I believe that some part of my energy will remain with all the people I love forever and that the rest of my energy is going on to do other things. I hope that with my death, along with the sadness, people will be able to see the gifts that they will receive because of it.
“This is what gives me great peace of mind.”
In addition to her loving husband of 20 years and their two children, all of West Tisbury, she is survived by her brother, Robert Churchill, and his wife, Becky Pardoe and their children, Colin and Natalie, all of Simsbury, Conn., and a wide network of loving friends.
Interment will be private at Abel’s Hill Cemetery in Chilmark. All are invited to a service on Saturday, June 25, at 3 p.m. at the Federated Church in Edgartown, with the Rev. Jerry Fritz presiding. A potluck gathering will follow at 5 p.m. at the Chilmark Community Center.
Donations may be made in her name to the Rotary Club of Martha’s Vineyard, P.O. Box 1951, Edgartown; the Polly Hill Arboretum P.O. Box 561, West Tisbury, MA 02575; or the Dana Farber Head and Neck Oncology Center, c/o Dana-Farber Cancer Institute, 450 Brookline avenue, Boston, MA 02215.
Diana Churchill Bardwell died on Saturday, June 18, at home in West Tisbury after a 16-month battle with ameloblastic sarcomatoid carcinoma, a rare cancer. She was 49 and had been a Vineyard resident all her life, first in summers and for the last 24 years as a year-round resident, where she was well-known in the community as a businesswoman, mother, wife and friend.
Diana Brainard Churchill was born August 1, 1961, in New York city, the first child and only daughter of Donald and Faith (Dennis) Churchill. She grew up in Brooklyn Heights, N.Y., and attended the Parker Collegiate Institute through the ninth grade. Following that she attended the Kent School in Kent, Conn., where she graduated in 1979. She enrolled at the University of Washington in Seattle, later completing her college studies at the University of Massachusetts at Amherst, graduating cum laude in 1985 with a bachelor’s degree in art history. Following college she enrolled at the Katherine Gibbs School in Boston where she studied office administration. From infancy Diana spent summers on the Vineyard, where her grandmother, Marion Cheney Dennis, owned a home on South Water street in Edgartown. Carefree childhood summers were spent sailing and playing tennis in the Edgartown Yacht Club junior programs and swimming in the gentle waters at the Chappaquiddick Beach Club with her extended family and friends. During her college years she spent summers working at the Old Sculpin Gallery in Edgartown. She worked behind the desk in the 1980s and managed the gallery from 1987-1990; in the late 1980s she was also the bookkeeper and treasurer for the Martha’s Vineyard Art Association, the nonprofit that supports Old Sculpin Gallery. Diana loved working at the gallery, where she took pleasure in introducing visitors to the work of Island artists and in helping hang the shows on weekends. Her close association with so many Island artists inspired her to change her college major from English to art history. After graduating from Katharine Gibbs, she temped for six months in Boston but the Vineyard, where her mother had moved year-round by then, was in her heart and on her mind. “I called my mother and said I wanted to come home,” she recalled in a conversation with a family friend recently. She moved to the Island, worked for a time with Peter Martell’s hospitality reservations business and then took a job with the New Bedford Five Cent Savings Bank which had a loan office on the Vineyard. In 1987 the office was taken over by Compass Bank and Diana became a mortgage originator, and then manager of the loan office.
While in college, through her lifelong friend Candy Mattern, Diana was introduced to Douglas Bardwell, an Islander whose family owned a successful electronics business in Vineyard Haven. Diana and Doug began dating after a chance encounter outside the Bunch of Grapes bookstore in Vineyard Haven when she was home from college on winter break. They were married in September of 1990. They had two children, Ian and Jared. They lived in Oak Bluffs for 10 years before building their present home in West Tisbury.
Diana left Compass in 2003 for a time after her mother’s death to take care of family matters. She returned to the bank, by then Sovereign, in 2005 and left for good in 2006, deciding to pursue independent work as a private bookkeeper and spend more time with her young children. “I felt like life was going so quickly and I was missing it all,” she recalled.
She loved to garden and was active in community affairs. She was a member of the Rotary Club beginning in 1993 and served as a sergeant at arms and director of international service until she took a medical leave due to illness. She won a Paul Harris Fellow award from Rotary in 2008. She served on the board of Big Brothers Big Sisters, Habitat for Humanity and the Martha’s Vineyard Art Association, including as president for a brief time, stepping down when her mother was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer. She was treasurer of the Chilmark School parent teacher organization and the school outing club, the fund-raising arm for the Shenandoah trip and fifth grade ski trip, which include every child in the school. She was a member of the Zonta Club. She was a member of the Edgartown Yacht Club and the Chappaquiddidick Beach Club, where she served on the board of directors for six years. After her mother’s death she took up sailing again, crewing in summer Herreshoff 12 races with her family friend Diana Muldaur Dozier of Edgartown.
In February 2010 she was diagnosed with a rare, aggressive cancer in her jaw. After completing a grueling series of surgeries, chemotherapy and many weeks of radiation treatments, in the spring of this year she returned home. The three daughters of her friend Candy Mattern, now Candy Webster, made Diana a quilt whose piecework reflected the things she loved: colorful Herreshoff sailboats flying in the wind, dozens of ruby slippers and red and white hearts. “Coming home I literally felt like I was wrapped in a blanket of love and that is what this community means to me,” she said. “Everything I have needed or my family has needed — we just have to ask and people are there. It’s so inspiring and humbling it’s beyond words.”
Despite her illness, Diana never lost her zest for organizing everything and everybody around her. In early June of this year she participated in the American Cancer Society Relay for Life event on the Vineyard. True to her character, Diana threw herself into the planning with great energy, organizing a huge team of friends and family of all ages to walk in the event and raise money for cancer research. Wearing their bright orange T-shirts, the members of Team Diana were quite a presence, walking and dancing their way around the track at the regional high school for 20 straight hours, with Diana in their midst for much of it.
In an e-mail to her family friend before her death she concluded:
“When my mother died, nothing made sense. But as the years went by I realized that in her death there were so many gifts. You just had to look. Amazing people and opportunities came into my life that would have had no reason to be there if she was still with me. I also had to finally grow up. In some cultures you are not considered to be an adult until you have lost both your parents, and I totally get that now.
“There are so many gifts. But one is the clarity that you gain — I’ve always had a faith if you will, that we are here to do what we were meant to do and when that time is up, it’s up. But we do go on to do other things — this is a transition and I’m at peace with it.
“Things will not be the same for those I leave behind, but it will be okay after awhile. There will be people and opportunities that will present themselves that wouldn’t have been there if I had stayed. I am moving on to my next purpose and everyone I leave behind will have new frontiers and experiences. I believe that some part of my energy will remain with all the people I love forever and that the rest of my energy is going on to do other things. I hope that with my death, along with the sadness, people will be able to see the gifts that they will receive because of it.
“This is what gives me great peace of mind.”
In addition to her loving husband of 20 years and their two children, all of West Tisbury, she is survived by her brother, Robert Churchill, and his wife, Becky Pardoe and their children, Colin and Natalie, all of Simsbury, Conn., and a wide network of loving friends.
Interment will be private at Abel’s Hill Cemetery in Chilmark. All are invited to a service on Saturday, June 25, at 3 p.m. at the Federated Church in Edgartown, with the Rev. Jerry Fritz presiding. A potluck gathering will follow at 5 p.m. at the Chilmark Community Center.
Donations may be made in her name to the Rotary Club of Martha’s Vineyard, P.O. Box 1951, Edgartown; the Polly Hill Arboretum P.O. Box 561, West Tisbury, MA 02575; or the Dana Farber Head and Neck Oncology Center, c/o Dana-Farber Cancer Institute, 450 Brookline avenue, Boston, MA 02215.

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